It's ok to feel many emotions when dealing with change.
Some changes however, like working out how to manage incontinence in your life can command a sense of hopelessness eventually leading to many forms of depression.
Eventually you may withdraw from forms of social interaction or your normal activity and a new normal way of life becomes acceptable.

Integrating any personal health challenge takes time, practice and patience, not to mention loads of support and open communication.
We often feel that no one will understand, that we are the only ones experiencing this and that we don't want to be a burden on others.
Remember this, if you could help someone with your knowledge and experience, you would share all your highs and lows, your lessons and your pearls of wisdom to make their life easier.
The same is true for people wanting to help you.

Social isolation, depression and feeling alone and helpless do not need to be your new normal.
There is so much help out there, you just need to reach out.

With RU OK day just past and October being Mental Health month its time we started talking about incontinence and helping each other live fulfiling lives that we totally deserve!

The emotional impact of incontinence
Incontinence can trigger a range of emotions, which can vary from person to person.
Some common emotions include:
• embarrassment and denial at having little control over what is considered a basic bodily function
• anger and frustration about why this has happened to you or someone close to you
• grief about the changes that incontinence has caused to your life and what you think you, or someone close to you, can no longer do
• anxiety about not being able to go out in public in case of unexpected accidents
• fear about being out of control and concern about whether the condition will worsen. 

Read More We found a great resource on the Beyond blue website, click here to find out more.

Where to find more information

Learn more about anxiety and depression, or talk it through with our support service. 1300 22 4636
Email or chat to us online at

Access to trusted, relevant mental health care services, online programs and resources.

Continence Foundation of Australia
1800 33 00 66 (Monday – Friday, 8am to 8pm AEST)
Free, confidential information and advice about incontinence and local services.